Advice, Keep It Within Your Family

BismiLlah

So you are getting to know someone and you really want to tell your close friends so they dont get mad, so you can get advice from them and more.

My advice is never tell them until engagement or the wedding is finalized, keep it within your family or tell someone that can give you advice, shejkh or a friend that knows a lot about islam and have been through what you are going through now.
I unfortunately had to learn this the hard way and i regret it big time!

Sometimes you can have friends that spread it very fast that you are with someone, they dont do it on purpose they do it bcuz they r happy for you but what they dont know is that they do a lot of damage to the relationship and ur reputation. It spreads very fast from one to another some spread bucuz they are happy some spread it bcuz they are mad at you for not telling subhanAllah!

How they can damage the relationship is that not everybody wants you best, so it can bring a lot of hasad(jealousy) and ain(evil eye) or that people from the outside wants to know everything but they dont know and still gives you advice that is wrong or tells you stuff that are false about your prospective spouse, shaitan can do his job very easy when this happens.

How they can damage ur reputation is that you still dont know if he/she is the one but people around knows about you two so if it doesn't work out people that wants to get to know one of them wont go forward either because a lot of people knew about them or because he/she was a friend of the person that was getting to know the other person you want.
It is much easier for a guy regain his good reputation then a girl unfortunately i dont know why really but i know that it is the truth

Having people know about the relationship before anythings is finalized is a big mistake i promise u cuz i know!

Advice for people that see their friend with someone they are getting to know or someone told them about it.

First dont talk about it to anyone! keep it to yourself. If a person spreads it tell them to stop. Dont spread it, COVER for them and you will get a lot of hassanat for that, if u cover for a muslim, Allah will cover for you too.

Second dont ask the person you saw about it, if he/she wanted to tell you about it then they would. it is their right to not tell so dont think it is your right to know about it cuz it isnt!

"Part of the perfection of someone's Islam is his leaving alone that which does not concern him."
(Hadith hasan - Recorded by Tirmidhi)

I hope this helps inshAllah

May Allah Help You, Make It Easy For You And Protect You. Ameen